Do You Talk Too Much?
~ By Jan Tincher
Do you talk too much? Some of us talk too much -- but we don't realize it. How do you know if you talk too much? Answering these questions will help:
Are you uncomfortable with silence? Do you find yourself blurting things out that aren't relevant to the situation? Do people look bored when you are speaking? (If the answer is yes to these questions, you'll be happy to know YOU can change, and it's not that difficult.)
When we have a bad habit such as talking too much, we tend to worry about it and, as we all know, worry only makes it worse. Why? Because: *The more we think it, the more we say it, the more we attract it. Do we want it in our lives?*
Worrying is a form of thinking, so what are you thinking? Whatever you continually think about, you attract. If you continually think about how you embarrass yourself by talking too much, you keep attracting the type of situation that gives you the opportunity to talk too much.
Here's a technique you can use that can change that.
Many of the bad habits we have in adulthood started when we were young. So that's where we want to make the change.
Sit down and relax and let your mind drift. When you are totally relaxed, let your thoughts go back in time a few years, then a few years more, then back to when you first remember being overly talkative.
Maybe you remember your folks (or someone else you respected) saying something like *Don't you ever shut up?* Or maybe a gentler reprimand, *Can't you be a little quieter? Maybe not talk so much?*
Just let your mind go back to those times.
Let those thoughts go through your mind. (If none of these apply, which is entirely possible, let your mind go to something that does.)
Think about it for a few minutes. Explore everything that affected you. Realize that the things that happened have made you what you are today. If you don't like it, that's OK. We all have the ability to change, and for many things, the best place to start that change is in the past.
Here is how you can change how the past affects you today.
When you are visualizing the person who was reprimanding you, change something about the memory.
Maybe now, the person is whispering the words to you instead of yelling them at you. Or maybe they are looking over to the side instead of right at you, as though what they are saying is just a suggestion. (You know, a suggestion meaning you can take it or leave it. It's not a reflection on you or your actions.) Or how about this? Instead of looking at you sternly, their eyes are crossing as they look down their nose at the fly that has landed there. (Sometimes humor is the best way to change a memory.)
How does that feel? Not so bad, huh? The purpose here is to let you have your memories, but you are viewing them differently now . . . in such a way that they don't hurt anymore.
Now, visualize yourself standing straight and tall as you leave that person. A smile is on your face and you are speaking softly and slowly to yourself, *I am a soft-spoken, confident person, and I will continually see myself in this way.* (If those words don't work for you, say something positive that does.)
Now, try to visualize a time coming up where you *know* you are going to talk too much. You can't see it, can you? Nah. You're busy looking at that guy with the fly on his nose.
Decide right now to take control of your life. Any memories that have you all tied up into predictable knots can be changed. It just depends on what YOU think, and how quickly you can change the situation in your mind.
Any time something comes up where you start to have a predictable reaction, just think about the fly and smile. The older you get the more you realize that life changes constantly, so why not take charge of those changes?
Good luck, and let me know how it works!
Thanks for reading.
Jan
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