Thursday, March 22, 2007

'Can't Be Done? Who Says?' - Darren Hardy's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Darren Hardy's blog post is entitled, "Can't Be Done? Who Says?" [blog]

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Hardy posts a rejection letter aimed at Alexander Graham Bell for his invention, the telephone. Read Complete Post

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'Beliefs that hold you back' - Curt Rosengren's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Curt Rosengren's blog post is entitled, "Beliefs that hold you back." [blog]

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Rosengren says, "Beliefs stay with us for three primary reasons:

First, we label them. ("I'm no good at math. My Mom (or Dad) wasn't either.")

Labeling beliefs and focusing on where they come from helps us rationalize and make them okay." Read Complete Post

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'Why Your Ego Loves Airline Delays' - Christine Kane's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Christine Kane's blog post is entitled, "Why Your Ego Loves Airline Delays." [blog]

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Kane says, "Yes, even in frustrating travel moments, there’s much to be grateful for.

Be grateful that someone cares enough about your safety not to fly you into a storm." Read Complete Post

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'The Law Of Forced Efficiency' - Brian Tracy's Blog Article - March 23, 2007

Brian Tracy's blog article is reprinted here.

The Law Of Forced Efficiency

There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing.

This law says that, "There is never enough time to do everything, but there is always enough time to do the most important thing."

You Always Find the Time

When you run out of time and the consequences for non-completion of a key task or project can be really serious, you always seem to find the time to get it done, often at the very last minute. You start early, you stay late and you drive yourself to complete the job rather than to face the negative consequences that would follow if you didn't get it completed within the time limit. Rule: "There will never be enough time to do everything you have to do."

You Are Already Overwhelmed

The fact is that the average person today is working at 110% to 130% of capacity. And the jobs and responsibilities just keep piling up. Everyone has stacks of reading material they still have to go through. One study concluded recently that the average executive has 300-400 hours of reading and projects backlogged at home and at the office. What this means is that you will never be caught up. Get that out of your mind. All you can hope for is to be on top of your most important responsibilities. The others will just have to wait.

The Key Question You Should Ask

The key question you should ask is "What is the most valuable use of my time, right now?" This is the core question of time management. This is the key to overcoming procrastination and becoming a highly productive person. Every hour of every day, there is an answer to this question. Your job is to ask yourself the question, over and over again, and to always be working on the answer to it, whatever it is. Do first things first and second things not at all. As Goethe said, "The things that matter most must never be at the mercy of the things that matter least." The more accurate your answers to this question, the easier it will be for you to set clear priorities, to overcome procrastination and to get started on that one activity that represents the most valuable use of your time.

Action Exercises

Take a few minutes each day and sit quietly where you cannot be disturbed. During this time, let your mind relax and just think about your work and activities, without stress or pressure.

In almost every case, during this time of solitude, you will receive wonderful insights and ideas that will save you enormous amounts of time when you apply them back on the job. Often you will experience breakthroughs that will change the direction of your life and work.

About the Author

Brian Tracy is the most listened to audio author on personal and business success in the world today. His fast-moving talks and seminars on leadership, sales, managerial effectiveness and business strategy are loaded with powerful, proven ideas and strategies that people can immediately apply to get better results in every area. Join Brian's Free Email Newsletters. Copyright © 2001 Brian Tracy International. All Rights Reserved. www.briantracy.com

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'Networking - A Key To The Vault' - Thom Singer's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Thom Singer's blog post is entitled, "Networking - A Key To The Vault." [blog]

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Singer says, "No matter what you want to accomplish with your career, your network is important.

Don't fight it....realize that other people hold the keys to your success." Read Complete Post

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'Leveraging Your Time' - Susan Velez's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Susan Velez's blog post is entitled, "Leveraging Your Time." [blog]

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Velez says, "I have set aside specific time everyday for my business that I focus only on my business.

I have to make sure that I use that time wisely otherwise the day passes by without me being productive." Read Complete Post

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'When Other People Are Angry' - Meryl Runion's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Meryl Runion's blog post is entitled, "When Other People Are Angry." [blog]

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Runion answers an email on how to be the mediator between two people that are very angry with each other. Read Complete Post

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'Self Improvement Tip of the Day: Good Intentions Aren't Enough' - Self Improvement Directory Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Self Improvement Directory blog post is entitled, "Self Improvement Tip of the Day: Good Intentions Aren't Enough." [blog]

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The blog post says, "To achieve anything, you must convert intention into action." Read Complete Post

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'What Makes a Good Leader?' - Denise Grier's Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Denise Grier's blog post is entitled, "What Makes a Good Leader?" [blog]

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Grier says, "A good leader knows when to push and when to back off.

They do not feel the need to control." Read Complete Post

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'Daily Affirmation - Communication' - Think Positive Blog Post - March 23, 2007

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Think Positive blog post is entitled, "Daily Affirmation - Communication." [blog]

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The blog post says to repeat this affirmation - I express my needs to others - throughout the whole day. Read Complete Post

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'How to Apologize Correctly: Part 3' - Joseph Uebergang's Blog Article - March 22, 2007

Joseph Uebergang's blog article is reprinted here.

How to Apologize Correctly: Part 3

Part three provides tips on how you can correctly apologize. These tips will help you in ways beyond apologizing. The tips can be applied in many areas of your life and communication as you will soon see. Part three of this course provides you with a guideline of more effective communication in your everyday life too enjoy better relationships.

Some people think apologizing correctly is as simple as saying “sorry” for a mistake. This is a shallow and poorly defined understanding of what we try to achieve when apologizing. The goal of apologizing and what I define as “apologizing correctly” is: when the person you hurt accepts your apology, forgives you, and your relationship is either stronger or indifferent to when you made the mistake. According to this definition, if you keep screwing up by making mistake after mistake, you will have successfully apologized when your relationship does not get hurt NO matter the number of your faults or their seriousness. The person neither rejects your apology by saying something like “no need to apologize” nor holds your mistake against you.

“The person you hurt accepts your apology, forgives you, and your relationship is either stronger or indifferent to when you made the mistake.”How do you know when you apologized correctly? It isn’t too tough to know this answer once you know what apologizing correctly involves. Remember that a successfully apology is accepted and the mistake is basically “forgotten”. The person forgives you for your mistake and your relationship is not hurt. Resentment, frustration, anger, gossip, bitterness, ill will, and other outward manifestations of hatred are indications of someone who has not forgiven you and hence you did not apologize successfully.

Having defined a successful apology, I feel it is important to note that apologizing correctly can only do so much as you will learn in part five of the course. There is no iron-clad, fool proof, guaranteed technique to successfully apologize. Sometimes you will need to suffer your mistakes and bear their punishment. Apologizing can only be a bandage on a wound where it helps heal the pain. If the wound is repeatedly reopened, then it is not the bandage’s fault. In reality, someone can only forgive you so many times before they lose trust in you. A reoccuring problem needs to be dealt with instead of expecting an apology to make amends.

Apologizing correctly can be very difficult, but with the following tips you will be fixing your mistakes and repairing your relationships. Master these tips and you will be equipped with the tools to repair the emotional damage caused from your mistakes.

Responsibility

Admit you hurt the person. If you hurt the person by saying something offensive, admit that you made the mistake and do not say they “Shouldn’t be offended by what you said.” Remember a non-apology from part two - Barriers and Mistakes Made in Apologizing - where it involves putting the blame on the other person while simulatenously ‘apologizing’? Remember the politicians and public apologies? Here are more examples of a non-apology apology:

“I’m sorry for not mowing the lawn even though it does not require cutting.”
“I apologize if I hurt anyone.”
“Please take my apology if you were offended by what I said.”

Own up to the mistake and take responsibility regardless of your intentions and whether it truly hurt the person. The little voice that is trying to take you away from accepting responsibility and apologizing is your ego. Egos are filled with deceitful lies and pride trying to deter you from responsibilility and owning up to your mistakes.

Plan

Planning what you are about to say by thinking your apology through beforehand or writing your apology down to clarify your thoughts, will increase your chances of successfully apologizing. This technique is about preparing yourself so you give a sincerely successful apology. Planning helps you eliminate the potential room for error of making another mistake when apologizing because we fail, stuff up, and make mistakes all the time. It is human nature.

When intense emotions are being spat-out like in an argument, it is hard enough to think of what you want to express yet alone say it in a non-destructive manner. Intense emotions are blinding to successfully expressing your thoughts non-destructively. Planning your thoughts before going “live” with your apology will drastically increase the likelihood of a successful apology. A plan gives you guidelines of which to act from helping you to keep on track and not deviate with relationship damaging statements all too common in emotionally intense situations.

The same lesson in planning to achieve your life goals carry over into apologizing. Success stems from the seeds planted with planning. Do not take this advice lightly. Planning nutures “golden” relationships.

Timing

For a little problem you need to apologize straight away and prevent it from growing into a big one. It is very simple. If you accidentally step on someone’s foot, obviously you should say “sorry” straight away instead of apologizing at a later time in writing or until the next time you see them. (I’m sure the person will think you have got some serious problems if you write an apology for stepping on their foot. ;))

For a more serious problem, take the time to get in a good environment where you can honestly apologize and where they can safely respond. Do not hurt yourself and the other person more by “going into a boiling room” so to speak by trying to apologize when the two of you have red hot steaming emotions. As said earlier in the course, if emotions are hot and intense, you may need to wait for a later time to apologize until the emotions cool down.

In addition, it may be necessary to give the person time once you have apologized. Provide the person with extra space to let the person come to terms with what has happened. Letting your apology seep in could be what makes your apology successful.

Explain

Why did you make the mistake? Do you even know that you made a mistake?

You should be able to realize when you hurt someone, but if you do not, the other person’s reaction will let you know. Depending on your mistake, explain to the person that you did not see them there, that you let your anger get the better of you, that you were ignorant, that you should have understood them better, or whatever the case maybe.

When explaining, do not forget responsibility. It is tempting when explaining your mistake, to shift the explanation onto the other person. You start off by saying “I’m sorry for not taking out the garbage…” then your selfishness can kick in and you say “…but I always take out the rubbish and you don’t ever do it!” Explain the problem, but don’t divert it into being the other person’s problem.

Use the who, what, why, when, and how to get you started in explaining your mistake. You do not need to explain everything, just say what you think will help the most and will clear up the understanding between the two of you.

Sympathy

Sympathy is an expression of pain the person you hurt is likely feeling. Communicating sympathy is important to let the person know you are hurting from your mistakes. You need to show sorrow about your actions. Share the other person’s pain by reflecting your feelings about the mistake by saying something as simple as:

“I’m sorry I lied to you. I feel guilty that I’ve let you down.”
“Having scratched the car, I feel ashamed that something so careless will hurt our finances.”
“I feel I have let you down and hurt our relationship by yelling at you.”

A common misunderstanding with sympathy is you are focusing on yourself and diverting attention away from the hurt person. Sympathy is about showing the person you too are suffering from your blunder. You are opening yourself up by showing the mistake had a bad effect on you. The other person becomes more understanding and willing to discuss their feelings because you have expressed yours.

You could even say, the other person is happy to receive this little bit of secret revenge by seeing you suffer. I mean if someone hurts us, we sometimes get a little kick of happiness seeing the other person also suffered from their actions.

How Did It Go?

Was your apology a failure? A failing apology has got nothing personally to do with you. Failure is a result not a person. If you are certain you successfully applied all these tips and your apology did not work, then part four of the course on alternative ways to apologize will be of your assistance as well as part five on what to do when you are not forgiven.

Was your apology successful? Congratulations. Be grateful for the person’s forgiveness and for a second chance. You may find your relationship becomes stronger then what it was before. You will reduce your pride and become more focused on how others feel. Your gratitude will bring many more great events into your life.

About the Author

Joshua Uebergang is owner of http://www.EarthlingCommunication.com where he teaches people effective communication skills and personal development. His work is recognised by communication, personal development, and psychology experts, authors, and public speakers. He encourages you to get the amazing benefits you can receive in your life from developing yourself and communication skills by getting your free subscription to his self development and communication skills newsletter here. Signup now and receive a special bonus.

*SINewswatch would like to thank Joshua Uebergang for granting permission to reprint this blog article.

'World's Best Presentation Contest' - Bert Decker's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Bert Decker's blog post is entitled, "World's Best Presentation Contest." [blog]

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Decker says that he's going to be part of the judging panel during the World's Best Presentation Contest. Read Complete Post

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'Self Improvement of Your Shape with Healthy Diet' - Self Help Zone Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Self Help Zone blog post is entitled, "Self Improvement of Your Shape with Healthy Diet." [blog]

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The blog post says, "There are numerous benefits with being in shape.

You will find that you have a higher level of self-confidence, a healthier body, and higher levels of energy after you are into your diet and exercise program." Read Complete Post

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'Emotional Vampires' - Thom Singer's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Thom Singer's blog post is entitled, "Emtional Vampires." [blog]

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Singer says, "While you can't kill them, you can keep these "vampires" from sapping your energy.

Surround yourself with people who are successful and confident." Read Complete Post

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'Gratitude' - Success Nala's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Success Nala's blog post is entitled, "Gratitude." [blog]

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Nala says, "We all have our own experiences to live out, whether in a beatdown apartment or a grand mansion — but we’ll always still be the same soul and experience the same life hurts and difficulties." Read Complete Post

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'Why It's Okay to be Depressed Sometimes' - PsyBlog Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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PsyBlog blog post is entitled, "Why It's Okay to be Depressed Sometimes." [blog]

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The blog post says,"Ultimately we don't often hear the simple message that it's OK to be depressed sometimes.

It's not pleasant, but it's part of being human.

It doesn't necessarily mean professional treatment is required." Read Complete Post

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'Self Improvement Goals: Stop Drinking Alcohol' - Self Help Zone Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Self Help Zone blog post is entitled, "Self Improvement Goals: Stop Drinking Alcohol." [blog]

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The blog post says, "The road to recovery and abstinence particularly for the long-term alcoholic is a long, difficult one.

The desire to stop is admirable, the attempt, to be supported; but the achievement of such a goal is to be applauded and rewarded." Read Complete Post

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'Focus to Win' - Robin Sharma's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Robin Sharma's blog post is entitled, "Focus to Win." [blog]

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Sharma says, "In The Greatness Guide I share a simple formula for genius: focus plus time equals mastery." Read Complete Post

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'Do You Have Low Esteem? Part1' - Emmanuel Segui's Blog Article - March 22, 2007

Emmanuel Segui's blog article is reprinted here.

Do You Have Low Self Esteem? Part 1

Low self esteem can be devastating to an individual's personal, work and scholastic life. The constant feeling of inadequacy and unworthiness can undermine attempts to succeed at even the smallest things. If you find yourself plagued with such feelings, you may need to ask “Do I have low esteem?"

Self esteem is your own view of yourself, your capabilities, and your attributes. It is impossible to succeed in life if you are constantly second guessing and berating yourself over the tiniest detail. Many individuals suffer from low self esteem so you are certainly not alone.

Some individuals have recently begun to question their self esteem while others have been doing so their entire lives. Whatever your situation, honestly answering these questions will give you a great deal of insight into how you view yourself.

Are you nervous or awkward around other individuals? These people can be coworkers, friends, family members, or even strangers on the street. Do you ever look at anyone and think you are not on the same "level" as they are physically, mentally, or athletically? Do you see yourself as the least important member of your family, group of friends, or office?

These persistent feelings can erode your self esteem. Most likely, you are the only one who thinks these things. Ask your friends, coworkers and family members about your performace, attitude and personality.

More than likely, you will be pleasantly surprised.

About the Author

Emmanuel SEGUI is a NLP Meta-master practitioner and the author of an amazing new ebook, "Moving From Vision To Action" that will teach how to easily empower yourself and other people to bring true power, focus, health and energy into their life.
Click now => http://www.vision-to-action.com

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'Bad News and the Two-Question Set' - Barry Zweibel's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Barry Zweibel's blog post is entitled, "Bad News and the Two-Question Set." [blog]

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Zweibel says, "To maintain your credibility and regard, you must be able to say precisely how you solved/meaningfully addressed the problem at hand, and what you put in place to prevent it from ever happening again." Read Complete Post

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'21 Proven Ways To Use PR to Build Your Brand (Part Two)' - Thomas Murrell Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Thomas Murrell's blog post is entitled, "21 Proven Ways To Use PR to Build Your Brand (Part Two)." [blog]

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Murrell says, "Public relations or PR is the best way to build your personal or professional brand.

Many people think PR is about 'spin' but it is about building strong relationships with all your important stakeholder groups." Read Complete Post

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'Tips for the First-Time Speaker' - Denise Grier's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Denise Grier's blog post is entitled, "Tips for the First-Time Speaker." [blog]

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Grier says, "Stop that negative thinking.

Your boss did not get where he is today by making bad decisions.

And though speaking in public for the first time is daunting, the tips below will help to assure that your presentation is a success." Read Complete Post

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'Daily Affirmation - Body Image' - Think Positive Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Think Positive blog post is entitled, "Daily Affirmation - Body Image." [blog]

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The blog post says to repeat this affirmation - I love myself and my body - throughout the whole day. Read Complete Post

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'Queen Elizabeth II to attend First Kentucky Derby' - Susan Dunn's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Susan Dunn's blog post is entitled, "Queen Elizabeth II to attend First Kentucky Derby." [blog]

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Dunn says, "New things are essential to emotional intelligence.

Emotional intelligence includes empathy - understanding that other people have feelings, and being able to imagine what they might be feeling." Read Complete Post

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'Public Speaking: The WOW! Factor' - Tom Antion's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Tom Antion's blog post is entitled, "Public Speaking: The WOW! Factor." [blog]

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Antion says, "If you want to push your name up the memorability chart, put something unique in your speaking engagements that causes the audience members to go WOW!" Read Complete Post

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'The Power of Curiosity' - Curt Rosengren's Blog Post - March 22, 2007

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Curt Rosengren's blog post is entitled, "The Power Of Curiosity." [blog]

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Rosengren says, "The more curiosity you can bring to your life, the more energy you'll feel, and the more possibilities you'll discover." Read Complete Post

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