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David Straker's blog post is entitled, "The power of music." [blog]
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Straker says, "What is interesting about music is its relevance in changing minds." Read Complete Post
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'Listening Wins Sales' - Brian Tracy's Blog Article - April 5, 2007
Brian Tracy's blog article is reprinted here.
Listening Wins Sales |
| The ability to pay close, uninterrupted attention to a person when he is speaking is the primary listening skill. |
| There are books, articles and multi-day courses on listening. There are audio/video-learning programs that include hours of instruction and a variety of exercises. They are all valuable and helpful, but what they teach can be distilled down into a key skill. Your mastery of these skills, through discipline and practice, is all you need to become an excellent listener, with all that that entails. Listen Attentively When Others Speak Hang On Every Word The Most Important Skill of All Action Exercises First, imagine that your customer is the most fascinating person in the world. Hang on every word as if he was about to place a million dollar order. Second, lean forward when your customer speaks. Nod, smile, agree and be both active and involved. Listening builds sales relationships. About the Author *SINewswatch would like to thank Brian Tracy for granting permission to reprint this blog article. |
'It's All About Words' - Donna Karlin's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Donna Karlin's blog post is entitled, "It's All About Words." [blog]
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Karlin says, "It all comes down to words whether in blogs, conversations, strategic direction...relationships of any kind." Read Complete Post
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'The Radiant Spirit: Ten Practices of Abundance' - Rick Jarow's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Rick Jarow's blog post is entitled, "The Radiant Spirit: Ten Practices of Abundance." [blog]
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Jarow says, "Abundance needs to be cultivated, for it emerges through the choice to act and react to one’s environment with the fullness of one’s being." Read Complete Post
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'Improving your self-esteem' - Ulla Sebastian's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Ulla Sebastian's blog post is entitled, "Improving your self-esteem." [blog]
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Sebastian says, "The way how you see yourself is closely related to the way how your parents, peers and teachers saw you when you were a child." Read Complete Post
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Sebastian says, "The way how you see yourself is closely related to the way how your parents, peers and teachers saw you when you were a child." Read Complete Post
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'Running' - John Bishop's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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'The Pattern Of Belief/Focus For Success' - Jan Tincher's Blog Article - April 5, 2007
Jan Tincher's blog article is reprinted here.
~ By Jan Tincher
Copyright © Jan Tincher - All Rights reserved
The feeling of success is an emotion, just as the feeling of failure is -- and they are both an emotional pattern you have developed, just as all emotions have patterns. You don't feel an emotion, you do an emotion, or you do an emotional pattern. If you have an emotional pattern, you can change it.
Three patterns make up our emotions -- the pattern of language, physiology and belief/focus. Successful or unsuccessful feelings/emotions are learned and contributed to daily. Then, sooner or later, a pattern in formed.
We all have a pattern for success, but many of us "use" the pattern for *unsuccess*, or failure, much more than we do the pattern for success.
As you learned in the previous issues, if you're happy, stressed, afraid, upset, or any other emotion, you're using your thoughts in a certain way. You are saying and/or thinking certain things -- in a certain way, using a certain pattern. You are also standing a certain way, meaning your body has its own way of dealing with emotions. You are also remembering what you believe or are totally focused on. All of those three things make up who you are and what you pay attention to.
Regardless, if you are thinking or speaking or hearing certain words in a certain way, those words trigger you. When someone yells at you in a way reminiscent of when you were growing up, you react the same way you always did -- good or bad. Why? Because it's a pattern you've learned. A pattern that says when *this* happens, *that* happens. The words are *this* and the action is *that*. You are triggered and the next time *this* happens you do *that* action.
You *believe* when you hear *this* you will do *that*. You don't believe otherwise, or you would *do* otherwise. What you believe, you focus on.
Your belief pattern makes up your life. Look around you. Whatever you believe is pictured in your life.
If you don't believe in eating chocolates, you have a very good chance of living your life without the experience of eating chocolates. If you don't believe in violence, you will shy away from violence. If you believe the fist is mightier than the mind, you will be automatic and physical in your reaction to something you feel is wrong. If you believe the mind is mightier than the fist, you will stand back and come up with a way to think differently about the situation. If you believe that love conquers all, you will stand behind that belief 100%. If you believe everyone is out to get you, you will stand behind that belief also, and automatically be prepared for it.
Please realize right now that no matter what you believe, you attract that type of person or circumstance into your life that will support that belief. Do you like what you believe? Does your belief support you as the type of person you *want* to be? Sometimes that answer to that is no.
Then, what are your options? You are what you are, right?
Think about it for a minute. If you thought everyone was out to get you, you would be looking for that to happen. If you thought love conquers all, you wouldn't even think about, or concentrate on, someone being out to get you. Iin fact, you wouldn't give it another thought. If it happens, it happens, but who really cares? After all, if your belief is that love conquers all, then it will, or at least it always has in your book.
Here is an exercise for you:
Bring up your most basic belief. It can be about love, hate, jealousy, whatever.
Let's go with love first. Let's just say you think, believe, that love conquers all. The person next to you is worrying about something. Your thoughts might be something like "Why is she/he worrying?" You would be thinking that because you know that if she/he had love in her/his heart, then that is what they would be focusing on. Worry wouldn't have a chance.
Now, for hate. If you had hate in your heart, it would be on your mind all the time. Your basic belief pattern might be something like, "I hate everything and everyone." When you hate someone, that person usually reacts to that hate, most often in a negative way. Guess what. You attracted that with your own thoughts, physiology, and beliefs. Am I saying that if you didn't have hate in your heart you wouldn't attract it in your life? You bet that's what I'm saying. If it did come into your life for some reason, you wouldn't react to it the way you used to. If hate didn't have your hate to bounce off of in the first place, it wouldn't get the same reaction, therefore it couldn't react in the same way.
How can you change? That's your belief pattern.
The same thing for jealousy. If jealousy was your basic belief pattern, then you would always be looking at what others have and what you don't have. That is your belief pattern and that is your life.
How can you change? Any one of those is your belief pattern.
Are you getting the picture. What do you believe? Whatever it is, it comes out in your physiology and your words.
How can you change that? Do you even want to change that? If you don't want to change and you have a negative belief pattern, you have to ask yourself why you don't want to change. You can work with that using "Releasing Your Thoughts". Http://www.tameyourbrain.com/releasing.htm
Remember, none of the answers are good or bad, they are just the answers that hold the key to your success.
A hero is a state of mind. Be your own hero. Learn that certain way of feeling that magnifies a certain emotion. Learn that certain body language that changes your state. Learn that belief pattern, what you focus on. Start taking charge of your emotions.
Here is a twist on last issue's exercise for you:
Stand in front of the mirror and imagine how you would feel if you BELIEVED you were a success. Check it out.
How are you standing? Is your spine straight? Are your shoulders back? Are your legs close together or spread apart?
Where are you looking? Are you looking yourself in the eyes?
Are your eyes bright and alive?
Is your heart beating just a little faster?
Is your breathing faster?
Is there a feeling of a weight lifted from your shoulders, chest, stomach, head?
Are you smiling successfully?
What are you feeling right now? Carry that feeling with you for the rest of the day. See what changes that makes in your life.
Here is another exercise:
Check your beliefs in everything you do. Make a list of pros and cons about every belief pattern you have. If it has too many on the con side, maybe you will want to change that belief. Read "Do You Want To Change Your Belief Pattern?"
http://www.tameyourbrain.com/beliefpattern.htm
Our patterns are important to us. Once we realize how they affect our friendships, our relationships, our lives, and, yes, our success, we pay more attention to them. Learn just how important your patterns are, then utilize that knowledge every day.
Thanks for reading,
Jan
P.S. Here’s what I’ve found to be the best methods for achieving success: http://www.tameyourbrain.com/successEcourse/successOffer.php
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The Pattern Of Belief/Focus For Success
Copyright © Jan Tincher - All Rights reserved
Here is an exercise for you:
Our patterns are important to us. Once we realize how they affect our friendships, our relationships, our lives, and, yes, our success, we pay more attention to them. Learn just how important your patterns are, then utilize that knowledge every day.
Thanks for reading,
Jan
P.S. Here’s what I’ve found to be the best methods for achieving success: http://www.tameyourbrain.com/successEcourse/successOffer.php
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Copyright 2007, Jan Tincher, All Rights Reserved Worldwide
Check out all my blogs here:http://tameyourbrain.com/blogs.htm
DISCLAIMER: Jan Tincher and/or *Tame Your Brain!* do not guarantee or warrant that the techniques and strategies portrayed will work for everyone. The techniques and strategies are general in nature and may not apply to everyone. The techniques and strategies are not intended to substitute for obtaining medical advice from the medical profession. Always consult your own professionals before making any life-changing decisions.
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Have you read it? "Tame Your Brain!" is a free weekly ezine that will teach you techniques and strategies that will help YOU build a more successful, happier life. And the great thing is, you can use each of these strategies immediately! Subscribe now and receive FR*EE "Do Butterflies Land On Your Shoulder?" -- a fantastic article on how to find peace. Email here: mailto:tameyourbrain@getresponse.com
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'Can The Miracle Man Help You?' - Roger Haeske's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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'Motivational Speech Topics' - Jim Arthur Peterson's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Jim Arthur Peterson's blog post is entitled, "Motivational Speech Topics." [blog]
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'It is Not Really Difficult for Achieving Self Improvement Goals' - Self Help Zone Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Self Help Zone blog post is entitled, "It Is Not Really Difficult for Achieving Self Improvement Goals." [blog]
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The blog post says, "Setting a goal is one thing, but staying motivated and on track is the key to ultimately achieving the goal and setting even higher goals to go after." Read Complete Post
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'Self Improvement Tip of the Day: You Can Have Anything' - Self Improvement Directory Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Self Improvement Directory blog post is entitled, "Self Improvement Tip of the Day: You Can Have Anything." [blog]
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The blog post says, "Time and money spent on furthering your own education, skills and knowledge will be the best investment you’ll ever make for your future." Read Complete Post
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'The Giant Leap' - Robin Sharma's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Sharma says, "Each move we make creates a consequence and ripples across our destiny." Read Complete Post
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'7 Tips For Making Yourself Happier in 60 Minutes' - Brad Isaac's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Brad Isaac's blog post is entitled, "7 Tips For Making Yourself Happier in 60 Minutes." [blog]
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'Some positive double binds' - Edward Hines Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Edward Hines' blog post is entitled, "Some positive double binds." [blog]
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Hines says, "To get beyond a double bind it is helps to see not just the individual elements clearly, but also the context in which they occur." Read Complete Post
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'Some Thoughts on Sincerity' - Denise Grier's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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Denise Grier's blog post is entitled, "Some Thoughts on Sincerity." [blog]
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Grier says, "With all the problems we have as a society, one of the great improvements we’ve wrought is that we demand sincerity much more often." Read Complete Post
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Grier says, "With all the problems we have as a society, one of the great improvements we’ve wrought is that we demand sincerity much more often." Read Complete Post
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'Unlocking Your Creativity' - Kirsten Harrell's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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'Public Speaking: Serious Q & A Sessions' - Tom Antion's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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'Interview With Author of "Do I Have A Birthday Too?: The Cheerful Givers Story"' - Roger Carr's Blog Post - April 5, 2007
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'How to produce excellent work' - Syd's Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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'Books on Neuroplasticity and memory training' - Alvaro's Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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'Self Improving By Going Back to School' - Self Help Zone Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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The blog post says, "You can include many things in self improvement goals, but the top priority should be the quest towards more knowledge and a higher educational status." Read Complete Post
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'The Key To Self Esteem Part1' - Emmanuel Segui's Blog Article - April 4, 2007
Emmanuel Segui's blog article is reprinted here.
Self-esteem, like happiness, is a state of mind. It can make you feel happy, cheerful and confident. It can also make you feel worthless, unwanted and weak. Self-esteem can best be compared to a powerful battery. When the battery is fully charged, the individual feels confident and raring to go; when the battery is run down the individual feels low and wants to hide.Obviously, individuals with low self-esteem cannot be expected to do well in life. They will approach every issue with a lack of confidence even though they may be fully capable of doing a job. That is why self-belief is considered the bedrock of self-esteem. It gives an individual the extra confidence that makes all the difference between an achiever and a failure. So how do you inculcate a sense of self-belief in yourself? You will be making a big mistake if you start seeing yourself as the most important man in your field. This cannot be called self- belief or self-esteem. Instead it is conceit, and as everyone knows conceit is a dangerous quality. It generates false confidence, which often becomes a source of woes. What you need is healthy self-esteem. This means that you should look at yourself as an individual who is at par with his peer group, who has nothing to feel ashamed of, and who looks at all issues with a positive frame of mind. Healthy self-esteem also means that you are able to differentiate between humility and self-effacement, between arrogance and modesty, between
complacency and hyperactivity.
*SINewswatch would like to thank Emmanuel Segui for granting permission to reprint this blog article.
The Key To Self Esteem Part1
Self-esteem, like happiness, is a state of mind. It can make you feel happy, cheerful and confident. It can also make you feel worthless, unwanted and weak. Self-esteem can best be compared to a powerful battery. When the battery is fully charged, the individual feels confident and raring to go; when the battery is run down the individual feels low and wants to hide.
About the Author
Emmanuel SEGUI is a NLP Meta-master practitioner and the author of an amazing new ebook, "Moving From Vision To Action" that will teach how to easily empower yourself and other people to bring true power, focus, health and energy into their life.
Click now => http://www.vision-to-action.com
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'I found a new web site that is very helpful for depression patients and their caretakers: Dr. Depression.org' - Charles Donovan's Blog Post - April 4
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'Lessons I Learned From The Garbage Man' - Edward Mills Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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'Pass The Tissue' - Beverly Keaton Smith's Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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'Alternative Ways of Apologizing: Part 4' - Joshua Uebergang's Blog Article - April 4, 2007
Joshua Uebergang's blog article is reprinted here.
This is part four of a five part course called “Clumbsy Little Earthlings” to do with apologizing. In part three, I taught you how to apologize correctly. This part is going to teach you how to leverage part three of the course through the alternative ways you can apologize. You might be asking yourself “Why should I learn alternative ways of apologizing?
I recommend you learn alternative ways to apologize because not every situation and person is the same. Apologizing face-to-face will work for you in one situation, but it won’t for you in another. You can fix your mistakes in a more effective way by learning alternatives to apologizing directly in person. Writing Sometimes talking to the person is not always the thing to do. They may not want to talk to you so any attempt you make in apologizing face-to-face will cause them to be resistant, avoiding, or aggressive. Do not confront the person if talking to the individual will have negative affects. Don’t tip fuel on the fire! In these cases, a written apology is the best answer. What you don’t want to be doing is writing an apology because you’re scared. You don’t want to be writing apologies based on your fear in facing the other person. Fear to confront the issue and not take personal radical responsibility is a poor motive for writing an apology which has been repeatedly discussed throughout the course. However, this is better then not apologizing at all. Do remember that bypassing fear is cheating yourself and will affect many areas of your life. The greatest thing about a written apology is the clear expression of what you intend to say and having it received in an effective manner. If I write you an apology for being late to a meeting, do you think you’d be able to interrupt me and not hear my full story? Nope. That’s impossible of course. You read exactly what I have to say. I get my full story across in the way I want and without interuptions. You are not able to interrupt, jump to conclusions, or misjudge me and this benefits both you and I. By writing your apology you plan and express yourself correctly without the pressures of the moment that cause us to say things mistakenly. You avoid the other person pressuring you with their body language (Especially when the person can burn a hole through you with their stare!) and other distractions that stray us from our conversations. Planning was a tip I offered in apologizing correctly. Lastly, by writing an apology it shows a true concern for the other person. It doesn’t take much effort to write one, but when you do it shows effort and awareness for the relationship. It shows you have put some serious thought into it. Even if you don’t write the perfect apology you will still benefit. The other person knows you are trying and will be thankful for it. This would likely be true for you when a written letter from someone you frequently see is an uncommon occurance. For help in how to write an apology there is an article on Earthling Communication written by Peter Pearson. It contains an excellent template you can use to write an effective apology. Someone Else Say the person you hurt doesn’t want to hear from you or there is some other rare reason you do not want to apologize face-to-face. Getting someone else to apologize for you is probably the best option. However, there are a few problems with this alternative to apologizing yourself: If the hurt person does not want to talk to you, don’t worry. Refer back to the previous part in the course timing as you may actually not need someone else to apologize for you. Gift The good ole bribe! Giving someone a gift as an alternative to saying “sorry” face-to-face works when used sparingly. If you constantly give gifts as your only way of saying sorry, the other person will be more than happy to keep receiving the gifts, but will only accept them on their face value. The person will not accept the reason behind you giving the gift. They will take the gift (I sure would :)) and likely reject the apology when you use this technique excessively. Combination You’ve been given three ways of apologizing in addition to a face-to-face apology. Each alternative form of apology has its own subcategories: To give you even more ways to apologize, you can combine any ways of apologizing together. Send the person a box of chocolates with a letter of apology and later that day have a friend express how down and sorry you feel about hurting them. You can see there are many ways to apologizing and the only limit is your imagination. Don’t go overboard with your apologies and make a big issue over something that is small. It is very annoying to have someone constantly say “sorry” or use other forms of apologizing when you have forgiven the person and moved on. When the person has forgiven you, move on. This lesson taught you the many alternative ways you can apologize to fix your mistakes. By using face-to-face apologizing, writing, gifts, someone else, and combinations, you’ll by fixing your mistakes in no time.
About the Author
Joshua Uebergang is owner of http://www.EarthlingCommunication.com where he teaches people effective communication skills and personal development. His work is recognised by communication, personal development, and psychology experts, authors, and public speakers. He encourages you to get the amazing benefits you can receive in your life from developing yourself and communication skills by getting your free subscription to his self development and communication skills newsletter here. Signup now and receive a special bonus.
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Alternative Ways of Apologizing: Part 4
This is part four of a five part course called “Clumbsy Little Earthlings” to do with apologizing.
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You don’t have any control over what the person will say. While you can recommend things you want them to say, what the person says at the time is ultimately dependent on them and the situation. -
It is best to hear it from the horse’s mouth so to speak. The believability and sincerity is far greater when you apologize for your own mistake. Expect this form of apology to have less impact as you saying it face-to-face. -
It is impersonal to have someone else perform such an emotional intensive action for you.
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You can write a note, a letter, an email -
You can use a variety of people -
You can give several gifts ranging from chocolates, a card, or something that solves your mistake. For example, you accidentally deleted someone else’s important files on the computer and you pay to have those files repaired by a professional.
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'Righteous Anger' - Craig Harper's Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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'Develop A Sense Of Urgency' - Brian Tracy's Blog Article - April 4, 2007
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Develop A Sense Of Urgency Perhaps the most outwardly identifiable quality of a high performing man or woman is "action orientation." |
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'Controversial New PowerPoint Research' - Bert Decker's Blog Post - April 4, 2007
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Bert Decker's blog post is entitled, "Controversial New PowerPoint Research." [blog]
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Decker says, "Use graphics, charts, pictures, symbols and the like - because they also found in their research that "It is effective to speak to a diagram, because it presents information in a different form."" Read Complete Post
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