The Art Of Persuasion
~ By Jan Tincher
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Would you like to be able to persuade someone to do anything at any time? If you were able to, would you want to?
The art of persuasion is a controversial art as it sometimes goes against people's values criteria. Some people feel using it is coercion, some think it would make them feel funny if they purposely set out to persuade someone, some feel the only way to get someone to agree with them is to be forceful.
On the other hand, some people bribe, some people threaten.
Doesn't that go against most people's values criteria, also? Hm.
That leaves this question to be asked: If you can persuade with integrity, how does knowing how to persuade people help you?
Perhaps you need something done, and someone else needs something done, and you see how you can benefit each other, but they don't. Hm. Could you persuade them to see your point of view? Wouldn't that end up in a win/win situation?
To look at it realistically, persuasion is just a tool. As with any other tool, in order for us to feel right about it, the technique we use cannot go against our values. Again, can you persuade with integrity? If so, why not learn to do it in a way that everyone benefits?
Why not learn how to persuade in a non-threatening manner, while making sure you create a win/win situation in everything you do? Why not naturally try to help people, as well as yourself, all the time? One way you can do that is to gain rapport with that person first. It's much easier than you may have thought.
Here is an exercise that may help, but I must mention that it is probably different than things you've done before. If you don't feel the following is for you, there are two other ways mentioned farther down.
Let's say you want to persuade someone to help you. Imagine you and that person are standing 3 feet away from each other. Between you is an imagined colored circle that goes from the floor to the ceiling. Imagine putting that person's energy body (a duplicate of his real body) in that circle. Now, put your hand in that circle to see if that person's energy feels like something with which you want to deal. (If they are sick, you don't want to deal with it at this time. If they are mean, disruptive, coercive, you don't want to do this at this time. You will get a feeling, just from putting your hand in the circle. Pay attention to that feeling and back away if that is indicated.)
OK, let's say you put your hand in the circle and it felt fine.
Now, mentally walk into the circle into her or his energy. Feel what he or she is feeling. Get a feeling of how he or she is standing (or sitting). Feel how they *wear* their body. You will find your body changing as it responds to what they are feeling.
You are gaining rapport with that person simply by feeling his energy. He or she unconsciously likes you because you are just like him or her now. You unconsciously respond to him or her, as they do you, and you have gained rapport. Gaining rapport, no doubt, means you have just gained a new friend.
Do you see how the art of persuasion works better for you if you feel rapport with the person you are persuading?
Now that you realize the art of persuasion is a great art to learn, here are two articles that will help.
"An Exercise In Gaining Rapport" is here:
"How To Gain Rapport With Someone You Like" is here:
Practice the art of persuasion every day. Learn how you can help people accomplish more. Learn how YOU can accomplish more!
Thanks for reading,
Jan
P.S. Here's what I've found to be the best methods for attracting
the right relationships:
http://www.tameyourbrain.com/relationshipEcourse/offer.php
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