Jan Tincher's blog post is entitled, "Anger, Can You Handle It?"
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Anger, Can You Handle It?
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How do we do that? The first thing to do is *realize* when a NONproductive state is starting. (We'll focus on anger as the nonproductive state for now, but realize that the same can be true for most other negative emotions also, such as fear, nervousness, hatred, etc.)How do you know when the NONproductive state is starting? Well, it's different for everyone, but let's just follow a question and answer scenario, then work it in a way that best fits you. Here is an example of how a Q & A session could go.
QUESTION: When do you realize you are about to become angry?ANSWER: My little finger starts to twitch and sometimes my eyes feel strained.
QUESTION: What happens next? Do you see pictures in your mind or do you get a feeling somewhere in your body or do you start thinking something?ANSWER: I get a feeling in my body, I guess, because I start breathing faster.
QUESTION: After you start breathing faster, what happens next? Do you see pictures in your mind or do you get a feeling somewhere in your body or do you start thinking something?ANSWER: I start thinking *I don't want this to happen.*
QUESTION: After you've thought that, what happens next? Do you see pictures in your mind or do you get a feeling somewhere or do you start thinking something?ANSWER: My hands start forming into fists. It's not like I'm going to hit anything though. I just need to do something with my hands so I form them into fists so I don't do anything I'll regret.
QUESTION: What happens after your hands form into fists? Do you see pictures in your mind or do you get a feeling somewhere or do you start thinking something?ANSWER: I get angry and start yelling. I am really angry.
QUESTION: OK, let's back up to the beginning. What would happen if, when your little finger starts to twitch and your eyes feel strained, you scratch your finger and blink your eyes? Would that change the sequence of events for you?ANSWER: I guess so. I'd have to concentrate on my little finger and blinking.
QUESTION: And what would happen to your breathing if you blinked v e r y s l o w l y?ANSWER: If I blinked slowly, then my breathing would probably slow down too.
QUESTION: If you were relaxed and breathing slowly, what would your hands do?ANSWER: Well, they probably wouldn't be forced into a fist.
QUESTION: Very good. You have just learned how YOU get angry, and you have just learned how to control that anger so that it doesn't blossom into something uncontrollable. How does it feel?ANSWER: It feels fantastic!
Why don't you go through this question and answer scenario and see how you can handle your own negative emotions? Once you take charge of your thoughts and experiences, your life will start to change -- in ways YOU want it to.Thanks for reading,
Jan~~~~~~~~~~~
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